We're not friends already?? Thanks for correcting that, bro!
Oh, btw, my idea of a 'spiritual non-alkie gathering' is simply where everyone is treated with respect by everyone else, possible because there is an unspoken agreement to care. Drunk people are too often assholes to others; and don't remember it next day when they get treated like pariahs.
In a 'spiritual gathering', family cares about each other; and for the land we are borrowing. Everything that can be done to avoid or heal damage is done, because it's the only way we can all live on this planet to begin with (and why we are failing).
All the other 'spiritual' trappings are either candy or annoying, depending on who you talk to! The above is all I care about. Do those two things, and it is a Spiritual Gathering for me.